Support and defend nonbinary teenagers who are exploring their gender.
Do not put the burden of cis ignorance and misunderstanding on their shoulders. Nonbinary kids creating new words and new pronouns are NOT responsible for cis people’s transphobia.
Cis person: ” I’ll always be able to tell you’re not a real girl, so don’t use the women’s bathroom”
Other cis person: ” it wrong if you don’t tell people you’re trans up front. Because I don’t want to be surprised when I sleep with you!”
So which one is it people? Either you’ll be able to tell or I should tell you because you can’t. Make up your minds!
99.9% of the time they can’t tell.
Its the .1% I am afraid of, because it means they are LOOKING for trans people or knew you before transition, and cis people looking for trans people has almost never ended well historically.
Yep, it’s the double bind. It’s not about accuracy, it’s about control.
1) Fuck that guy, obviously.
2) Ya GAWJUS.
3) So fucking glad I’m a lesbian.
shit like this is why i find men so fucking repugnant
their egos are weak as hell and they throw punches at the slightest provocation
Anonymous said: i got in a fight over a cisman playing a transwoman, and told the person i was fighting with 'we don't allow blackface anymore why do we allow this'. Is that a fair tactic or should I not link the two things?
linking the two things is a really tenuous line- while there are similarities in that they are both offensive portrayals of a group of people by people not of that group, it’s still something that we should treat very carefully
plus, race-based minstrel show bullshit still happens, unfortunately (look at robert downey jr in tropic thunder) so even as an argument it’s not particularly a good one because that shit still happens frequently and is encouraged by hollywood, etc
basically stay away from that line of argument, imo it also treats racism and transphobia/transmisogyny as separate camps, and there’s plenty of trans WoC who experience both forms of oppression
ive only ever gotten anonymous harassment when it became apparent to ppl that i was a girl or queer thats so wacky whats up w/ that
i only got it when there was still a clear connection to my internet presence as a woman and then, nada!
honestly, that aside (i still think the fact i present as mostly-male is why i haven’t picked up any new harassers) i think either my e-stalkers lost track of my url (good), the one time i caught them scared them off (better), they’re simply not contacting me (i’ll take it) or they don’t wanna look like bullies now that i’m incontrovertibly disabled.
when i was getting anonymous harassment from r/TumblrInAction they all assumed i was a woman even though nothing in my about me indicated as such.
hmm huh i wonder why that was
generally whenever i get hate mail it’s when i out myself as AFAB
im beginning to see a pattern here
Morgan retweeted the top message. The others are comments that were made in response.
White cis gay dudes throwing trans woc under the bus for the sake of siding with other white dudes.
Today must be a day that ends in “y.”
"standing on our shoulders with daggers" LMAO i think you’ve got that backwards. utterly and completely backwards.I’ll stand on their graves in stilettos, tho.
(AKA “I should be doing homework but this really needs to be said and I didn’t stick it in my proposal because it felt like whining and I couldn’t find a proper place to put it but this has got to be out there somewhere.”)
It does. It really does.
It starts the very first time you realize you aren’t “normal,” and you turn to your first person and tell then that maybe, you know, if it’d be ok… Maybe they wouldn’t mind calling you Sam instead of Samantha? Or Joan instead of Joe? Or could they just use your initials, maybe? If it’s not too much trouble? And this person (whoever they are) thinks it’s a game. And they laugh, or they snicker, or they ask you why you would do such a thing. Because Joan is a girl name, and you’re not a girl. Why would you want to be one? So you apologize and laugh it off, but inside you’re not smiling.
And it happens again a couple of years later, when you find your way to the internet and make yourself an account in a kiddy forum and say you’re a boy. Your little display picture is a male anime character or another. And you grow to really like this community, until one day someone finds you out for one way or another. Maybe you were careless and let a friend see the site over your shoulder, and they joined. Maybe you started IMing with someone from the forum and they saw your display photo on your IM system, and it’s of a girl. Maybe you decided to go to a meet-up and everyone realizes you were lying. Because of course you are not who you say you are. So you apologize and laugh it off, and say you were just roleplaying. Or it was a joint account with a friend, and they left. Or you clicked the wrong gender when signing up and didn’t realize until people thought you were that gender and you kept it going because it was funny. But of course you can’t go back to the site now.
Again when you start dressing more androgynous, and when someone genders you the way you feel inside, your friends laugh and assure these people that you are not what you look like. That you really do have a dick. Would this stranger want to see it? ‘Cause they’ll pull it out for you if they have to. Hahaha, isn’t it funny that this person thought you were a girl? And you laugh and you apologize to this other person for looking misleading, but inside you are kicking yourself.
And then you come out. Hesitantly at first. You come out to a couple of close friends, and you say you may be genderqueer, and you don’t really know where you stand, but would they mind calling you “they?” And could they just call you Alex, or Cory, or Logan, which are all gender-neutral? And they say that maybe, I mean, it’s really hard, they’ve always known you as Alice and it’s going to be so super-hard to keep those pronouns straight. Hahahaha get it? Straight? Because you’re not straight if you want to be called Alex. You’re obviously gay or bi or something because straight people don’t switch genders. And you say it’s ok and you know it will take time and you don’t correct them even when they misgender you through the years and they call you the wrong thing in front of new friends or in front of your partners. And you apologize for picking such difficult pronouns and for putting them through this and asking them to switch over.
You apologize when you throw the gender ratios off in class and if only you were a girl you could be divided by gender and both groups would have the same amount of people. But, I mean. You don’t mind being with the girls, right? You understand them! Here, ehm, Rob. We promise we still think of you as a guy. But it will be so much easier if you just do us this favor and let us put you in the girls’ group. And you apologize for putting them through this.
You apologize for holding up the line at a gay club because the bouncers are convinced that your ID is a fake. And when you get out at the end of the night and they’re still there, you ask them why they thought it was fake, since it’s brand-spanking-new and you just got it, with the right name and gender, this past month. And they ask you if you’re trans. Oh, you are? Well, that explains it. It just didn’t look right, you know. The font is too thin.
You apologize when you wear a dress and grow your hair out and wear make-up and they still call you Andrew because it’s so hard for them because you will always be “he” to them.
You apologize for going into the right bathroom.
You apologize for mentioning that not all men have deep voices.
You apologize for knowing about periods.
You apologize for having a period.
You apologize for not having a period.
You apologize for being tall.
You apologize for being short.
You apologize for passing.
You apologize for being read.
You apologize for fucking existing and taking up space that you have no right to because you’re a filthy trans person and should just let cis people go ahead and walk all over you.
You apologize for wanting the same rights everybody else has.
And then? Then you have to apologize for not speaking up, because it’s not like cis people could have guessed that you were having issues with housing, or with pronouns, or with the bathroom, or with surgery, or with anything at all. Because you should be both unnoticed and a banner child. Because you should let everybody know you are here in case you make them uncomfortable, or in case they do something that’s fucked up and that screws you over. Because it’s not like you were supposed to see that. If they had only known you were there, they wouldn’t have done it. But oh my gods stop talking you’re always talking about how hard you have it why aren’t you just thankful about the stuff we’ve given you.
So you apologize for being.
It’s making the rounds again.
Damn. Forgot to tell him/her to kill him/herself.
Maybe I should just begin referring to those people as it.
I mean they’re not even people as far as I’m concerned.
idk which i like better tbh, overt transphobia or casual insidious transphobia
oh wait they can both go fart on my dick
remember when brian the dog found out that the woman he was dating was transgender and he violently vomited for 30 uninterrupted seconds? rip he will be missed
Remember when after the negative reaction to horrific transphobia on the show, Seth McFarlane said this: ”[The unhappy reaction to our transgender character] surprised me. I don’t meet a lot of stupid homosexuals. They seem to be a pretty smart bunch. But it seemed that they were not picking up on the fact that it was a very sympathetic portrayal of a transsexual character…. Look, Brian happens to be a heterosexual character, as I am. If I found out that I had slept with a transsexual, I might throw up in the same way that a gay guy looks at a vagina and goes, ‘Oh, my God, that’s disgusting.”’
Family Guy. Quality entertainment. Let me tell you.
Anonymous said: It's really fucked up how you purportedly support transgender women despite how much they rip the narrative of being female from actual, real women. Transgender women actually steal the spotlight from womens issues - notice how trans women repeatedly talk over actual women who were born women.
It’s really fucked up how you’re a fucking coward who had to send this shitty sophomoric TERF nonsense to me on Anonymous and that you probably think you’d make me die of cognitive dissonance over garbage arguments that have been so repeatedly dunked into the trash by any basic sociological understanding that to even begin to address them is a privilege they don’t deserve. PS: You’re stupid as heck
"actual, real women"
look at this scrub