jimmybob dickhandler, world-class rumpmaster
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oh I forgot about this!
my day one to 20mo. crazy ass hips/ torso update.
the second pic is reversed cause its in a mirror.
i didnt even realize how much of a change i made until I took the second one.
but yeah, im 2 years and a few months and my body is still changing.
so to you youngins, don’t give up. cause it takes a while.(via kermitthefrrog)
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we need a little glamour & glamour arrives: Tip for practicing unfamiliar pronouns Take a song that uses a lot of personal pronouns (my go-to is Avril Lavigne’s Sk8r Boi). Talk or sing through the song, replacing the pre-existing pronouns with the ones you want to practice (“Ey was a boy, xe was a girl”). If you mess up, you’re misgendering fictional people, and you get to practice all the different conjugations in pre-existing sentences, so it makes it a lot easier to internalize them than just talking to yourself while making up sentences on the fly, since you can more directly relate them to the conjugations of he/she that you already are familiar with.
SUCH A GOOD TRICK
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someone else’s transition does not affect yours
trans women are women and when they present themselves as the women they are they lose male privilege
the only reason trans* people seem more prevalent nowadays is because there is access to more and better information on the subject so people are more willing to question and explore their identities instead of being fucking miserable but not able to give words to what they feel
its not a fucking trend
you are a shitty person and i hope you miss your bus and are late to work
and the fact that i have to keep repeating this shit seriously makes me want to go fuckin killdozer on folks good goddamn
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Transgender inmate wins hearing appeal [may she win this!] Hey. So this is really, really fucking important.
I’m not sure how (if anything) we can help Ophelia De’lonta but she surely needs support. Especially now that she has earned the right to have her case heard.
But. She is a Black trans woman in prison. She deserves not only the support but to have the medical care that she needs.
(via mattachinereview)
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Cis people want to impose a mirror reflection of themselves.
That means that in order to “really be trans” you have to “really want to be cis”.
And thus you have to fit that mold: white, straight, middle-upper class (preferably white collar but blue collar is good ol’ bootstraps right?), binary.
If you do not believe me, take a look at the practices and care for the medical industry world over and it literally is following the same. exact. damn. mold.
exactly
i mean when some fucklord winds up inevitably asking about “the surgery” when i get outed i have gotten to the point where i just shake my head and walk the fuck away
not all of us want or need bottom surgery
some do and thats ok but man
i dont
at all
even if they made it so it was 100% indistinguishable from a cis dick and did literally everything up to and including spewing jizz i dont think i would get one just kind of on principle
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Anon asked me to explain trans* and I’m posting it like this so it’s rebloggable.
Imagine you have a clock. It’s a good clock. When friends visit they always comment on how nice of a clock it is, how well it runs, how pretty it looks…
The clock works very well for a number of years. From the day you are given this clock until then, it is a wonderful clock and it suits your lifestyle well enough.
Eventually, though, the clock starts doing strange things. The minute hand moves far slower than intended, the second hand won’t stop spinning around, the hour hand doesn’t seem to have moved in days. You find yourself disoriented because this clock has become such an integral part of your day to day activities. You can’t read another clock without being confused.
So you call a watchmaker and ask him to come examine the clock for you. He agrees, and you bring him the clock, and in his dusty clock-filled office he tells you that he knows how to fix it, he has all the tools, but due to the exact nature of this clock’s problem he can’t repair it without approval from a technician.
You go to the technician. He tells you that you have to see another technician and a government agent involved with clock towers, to make sure the time is right and the clock, not your inability to read it, is the problem and that the problem can, in fact, be fixed.
You go to all of these people and they all send you to the watchmaker with a letter. Two of them - the government official and one of the technicians - tell the watchmaker that your clock is, in fact, broken, and that he can go ahead and fix it. One of the technicians, though, wrote that the clock is not the problem. The problem is your inability to adjust to having a clock that moves the way that one does.
The watchmaker, of course, can’t fix you. He can’t fix the clock without the technician’s approval, so you have to go through another technician in another city. These appointments are expensive and take a lot of time and travel, but you need a functional clock, and you can’t get a new one because they all seem to break.
Eventually, after a few meetings, you manage to get the third technician’s letter. This one says we’re good to go. The watchmaker goes ahead and fixes your clock, but he can only fix the second hand.
To fix the minute hand, and later the hour hand, you will need more appointments and letters and a waiting period of several months to see if you can operate effectively with only the second hand functioning as it’s supposed to.
Then the entire process repeats with each of the other hands.
This is basically what being transgender feels like.
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San Francisco Offers Free Sex Changes for Uninsured -
everythign should be informed consent
everything
every
fuckin
thing
w a emphasis on the informed
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I posted on Facebook that I’m detransitioning and changed my name back. So far I have received quite a few very supportive messages. I have good people in my life. :)
And this, folks, is why I personally feel you should see a therapist for at least a year before making such a life-changing decision.
This is part of the reason why it is so hard for people to talk about anything to do with changing their minds or detransitioning. It happens, it happens for a number of reasons and there needs to be space for that discussion. I had all the therapy I felt I needed. I needed to go through with this to understand how I feel and what is right for me and I don’t regret the decisions I made. I did the real life test, realised this wasn’t the right path for me to take and stopped before going any further.
I agree that people need to take their time and make an informed decision, but sometimes people have really done that, and still realise at some point that transitioning isn’t the solution for them (or possible at that point in time). There’s nothing wrong with that.
I wasn’t necessarily saying that you didn’t take the time to think things through - you definitely seem to have. However, from reading your blog post, you directly stated that you were uninformed of the consequences of transitioning, which is something I think that many people neglect to educate themselves on first. Hence, why I think that seeing a therapist for a year is a good thing, as it allows you a good amount of time to truly consider your decision, as well as for the therapist to bring up any complications or consequences that you may not have realized on your own.
dude therapists are fuckin expensive as shit and it is really
really hard
to find a decent therapist
that you can afford
who knows a single damn thing about trans folks
i have had to educate literally every therapist i have ever seen because they seriously do NOT teach about this shit for more than like 3 minutes in whatever schools therapists go to
plus finding reliable information is really hard when yr in a weird mental space d/t questioning yr gender and having other life issues to deal w
its not her fault that we’re apparently still ~natures freakshow~ or whatever the fuck and nobody bothers knowing a damn thing about trans* shit or educating themselves so trans people dont have to goddamn teach their fuckin therapists and doctors from the ground up at every fuckin turn
detransitioning is a personal choice and im glad that people are being open about it because yes it does happen for various goddamn reasons and people who are in that situation shouldnt have to feel alone
ugh fuck im just done w frickin judgemental shit tonight
totally done
(via revealingtheself)
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do transguys thing the term “transmisogyny” is wrong?
like…. i want to know opinions here
just wondering
it exists but a lot of transguys say it dont
i just want opinionssss
thanks
it absolutely exists and i laugh in the face of anyone who says it doesnt
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man
upon reflection
the whole of silence of the lambs coulda been prevented w access to a good informed consent clinic like mazzoni
and less gatekeeping from jackasses going by harry benjamins horrible bullshit
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Hating Transsexual Bodies - a 5-part series by Monica Maldonado Now that Monica’s finished this series I can finally link the whole thing. This Tumblr post is a link to the last part but the whole series is a must-read. Here are the links to every part with a quotation from each, not meant to be representative of the part but to pique your interest so you read it at the source.
Please put aside some time and energy to read this series. Trans* readers, please be aware that these contain all the usual things that can trigger us.
How Gatekeepers Made Me Hate My Body: Part 1
Trans women are given two options: we are either the mute eunuch, “approximating the appearance of a woman” (as Benjamin said), or we are the supposed pervert or rapist who must be denied access to either medical treatment or social accommodation. Given such little leeway, and the deep stigma ascribed to each of these two options, trans women so often end up very reluctantly going along with the “less frightening” of the two. We become the compulsory eunuch in spite of however uncomfortable it might make us. Both options are non-choices for which the table is stripped by cis people of any other possibilities of what a trans woman could be — or is allowed to be.
How Queer Women Made Me Hate My Body: Part 2
I wasn’t chased away from the community — not directly. I wasn’t directly told I should be disgusted with myself, or that I’d never find a partner who could love me. I was never told directly that a ‘freak’ like me didn’t deserve love. Instead, all the messages added up to an established story — a canon. Once I realized that it wasn’t that we were “threatening” gender or sex as systems; once I realized that it wasn’t that I was transsexual; and once I realized that it was the fact that I was a trans woman, that was when I knew that I wasn’t welcome anywhere.
How Invisibility Made Me Hate My Body: Part 3
Without the capability to interact with queer women’s culture (and without the capability to learn how queer women’s culture differs from straight women’s culture), I had little in common with those who inhabit this culture. This, of course, compounded into a feedback loop: the less I had in common, then the less I could interact, and the less I could interact, then the less I’d have in common moving forward. The truth is, cultural isolation can be painful, especially as it leads to having others interpret you as something or someone you are not — regardless of who you are. In this case, it led to me being read exclusively as a straight woman for years.
How A Second Try Made Me Hate My Body: Part 4
In this context trans women are presented with another impossible scenario in which we are given another reinforcement to the benefits of not only blending as cis, but the double standards and social enforcement against those who do not (by disclosure, ‘visible’ gender variance, or other means). Upon disclosure, either voluntarily or involuntarily through visible variance or other means, a trans woman is paradoxically held to the social rules and standards of both the binary sexes. She is instructed, implicitly, to navigate as a man would, as other women might view her as a potential threat. While at the same time, if she makes these behavioral adjustments, they are judged as signs of her clear ‘maleness’ and her own agreement with these guidelines and the assumptions used to make them.
All of her actions — often due to the observers prior sexual interest pre-disclosure — are suspect, regardless of the reason for them, as evidence of the assertion she’s put in the position of being automatically placed in the position of ‘threat’, or as the perceived perverted rapist rather than the docile and non-threatening eunuch we expect trans women to be. And as such, queer trans women especially are treated as if we have a disease.
My skin was and is treated as toxic, as if the original sin of male assignment is contagious. One of the strangest feelings of all is how all of my sexuality, beauty, character, and uniqueness is stripped away from me all within a few moments. All my mannerisms, communications, and social interactions are judged by a catch-22 of either being a façade or “socialization” without regard to the reality of my personal experience. All of my sexuality is stripped away from me as if I’m no longer a queer woman.
How We All Made Me Hate My Body: Part 5
… I’d argue, that instead we focus on the 4 specific issues that make up the issue brought to light by the conversation:
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The Eunuch/Rapist false choice as it applies internally and as an external force applied coercively
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Transmisogynistic Sexual Disgust which when externalized by those who experience it results in an enforcement of that disgust on others, society, and standards of beauty. When enforced onto trans women in particular, it becomes an insistence that trans women should feel shame for creating this disgust in others or for being an object of disgust by society. This shame then has a reinforcing impact on trans women and our sexuality
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“Aesthetic Brutality” as an aggressive enforcement of ethnocentric, cisnormative and heteronormative/homonormative beauty standards. This results in the us being told to be ashamed or dislike our bodies, not because of others disgust, but because of our bodies non-conformity to their expectations. This applies to genitals, gender presentation, and non-cisnormative features, among other things. While similar to Transmisogynistic Sexual Disgust this is often a result of social pressure and context, while the former is a far more visceral or “gut” reaction.
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And cissexism, just plain old cissexism and ignorance which has the interpretation of presuming that trans women are not truly women. That, often due to the eunuch/rapist problem, presumes trans women are, in fact, neutered/lesser men. Ignoring the fact that this plays into sexism with the idea of women just being lesser men as well, this creates a stigma that enforces social discomfort with our sexuality in a much greater way than others.
Thank you, Monica, for writing this.
this is an excellent series and i highly suggest that any of my followers interested in trans issues read it
(via pixidix)
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Why don’t you hear about late-onset transsexualism much? It’s always “I knew when I was a tot”.
man my gender shit didnt really come to the forefront until puberty happened
dresses are fun + cool but man growin tits was literally the worst, i think thats what set my ass off, i didnt give much of a fuck about clothes for the most part
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What would you want from a charity aimed at helping trans* people?
project-codename-rainbow-phoenix:
I am trying to start a online charity (at least initially online, and this is highly dependant on whether one can achieve NFPO status) with a design similar to Kickstarter (http://kickstarter.com) aimed at helping trans* people with low incomes fund their Sex Reassignment Surgeries.
The basic idea is to allow members of the internet public to donate to a person to help with funding a particular cost, be it a surgery or cost of hormones, or something to that affair.
People could choose to either donate a small amount regularly similar to an adoption scheme, or a lump sum pledge, donations can be either anonymous (to enable people who support trans* issues but are in social environments that are hostile towards said support to pledge without fear of repercussion).
People might also donate to the cause directly, and have us distribute the funds appropriately.
The idea is to build a community around said people, with people who are capable of donating money being able to reach trans* people directly.
I need lots of information about what sort of barriers people have to transitioning successfully? Also about how you might envisage the charity functioning? this tumblog has a design document with very early ideas about how it should run, but it is mostly covered here. What sort of information should be presented on a donee’s profile?
hey followers i know some of y’all are total nerdlords and theyre lookin for someone to help build their website
hit these fuckers up
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