Guys, just fucking stop it…
I’m looking at you gay fellas, and especially my own sub-section of hirsute larger men. Bears aren’t the only offenders in this, but it sure feels like we can be some of the most vile.
Our obsession with being hyper-masculine and shunning those who don’t adhere to some “alpha male” ideal is just plain gross. The idea that a feminine man is any less deserving of respect is the exact same bullshit homophobes use against us, and is just another example of gays eating their own in order to appease our oppressors.
I know that at any given moment I can present as very masculine or quite feminine or wibbly wobbly grey area depending on my mood, the people I’m with, or my location, and you fuckers are lying to yourselves if you deny that it’s the same for you. All of this posturing and “straight acting” bullshit is not helpful, and you look like complete tools.
aint nothin wrong w a femme bear
specially cos elaborate makeup can look hella fine on a chubby dude w a beard imo
and there aint nothin wrong w bein feminine in any way shape or form despite what fuckin society tells us
My mother said I can’t find a job because I “dress like a boy and confuse employers.” So like this post if you are transgender and have a job where you express yourself as your own gender.
not only that, but my boss got weirdly excited about having me come back for this summer as a dude
probably mostly because now he can make me lift all the heavy shit sans guilt since hes an old guy w a bad back
like seriously a very very large percentage of the folks at stonewall that night were trans women and there were no few trans men either
the police had a policy taht if you werent wearing at least 3 articles of clothing of yr assigned gender then you were headed to jail
and they finally got fed up w it and bashed back
god bless em
Gay Reality Check #16
uhhh while it’s important to be trans* inclusive, equating sexuality (LGB) with gender identity (T) is one of the main reasons I use “queer” as a catch-all without all the weird acronyms
it’s not the same thing
the Stonewall Riots, which ostensibly started the “Gay Rights Movement” in the US as we know it, was started by trans* women of color.
Now, quit with the cis-splaining & attempts to distance yourself from trans* people. You owe your ability to identify as “queer” to them.
^THAT COMMENT^ <3
Can velocikrafter-of-the-water-tribe be my new friend? Because that comment is fantastic. <3 Also, baller URL.
No it’s not the same thing but we’re already fucking lumped together so either start sticking up for us or drop the T from the acronym already.
but seriously i am sick and fuckin tired of people tryin to say taht trans folks didnt have anything to do w stonewall
i have ragequit so many pride groups because of this
seawitchintraining-deactivated2 said: omfg I am getting shit in my ask from reblogging your post. I'm not posting these anons but one said "This is your problem, you think everybody's out to get you, I'm on your side and constantly complaining about bad allys isn't helping" wut.
HI FAERIE’S ANONS
YOU ARE THE REASON I SIDE-EYE ALLIES SO MUCH
IF IT WASN’T FOR SO CALLED “ALLIES” LIKE Y’ALL I’D ACTUALLY FEEL MUCH SAFER IN MY DAY TO DAY LIFE
I WAS ACTUALLY STALKED AND ASSAULTED BY AN “ALLY” LIKE YOU GUYS
LISTEN TO THE PEOPLE YR SUPPOSEDLY ALLIES OF FOR ONCE IN YOUR PRIVILEGED LITTLE FUCKIN LIVES YOU HUGE UNREDEEMABLE PIECES OF PISS
raptorific said: Also, "born this way" implies that they would change their gender and sexuality if they COULD, but they can't because they were "born that way." Whether or not it IS innate for that particular person, using that as an argument implies there's something wrong with anything but heterosexual cis people. Let's stop teaching "there's nothing they can do about it" and start teaching "there's nothing wrong with it."
I really don’t give a shit whether you are “born this way” or discovered it late. I don’t care whether nature or nurture makes someone trans*, queer, or what. I care about treating you with basic human decency. That is what should be important in the long run.
Seriously, who gives a fuck whether someone was “gay/trans/bi/lesbian/etc at birth” or made a conscious choice? I realize this is going to piss people off, but identities are identities and I don’t really give a shit how it started, I care about giving respect.
Some people really do feel they made a choice. Some people really do feel that their orientation and gender identity are completely innate. I personally feel that my gender identity is innate, but my orientation is basically fluid. People are fluid. Personalities are fluid. Things change.
Some people don’t figure it out until later in life.
Some people figure their shit out early, but things, as I said, change.
Some people figure it out early on and it sticks for good.
Why is the whole beginning of everything so important when what we should focus on is just not treating one another like shit for who they are and who they love?
I realize that everyone’s identity is important to them- mine sure is to me- but as a whole species, why is this so vastly important?
If we say it’s all a choice, then the bigoted jackwagons will try to make us choose otherwise.
If we say we were born this way, then they’ll try to find “the queer gene” and screen us all out in the womb.
Either way, we lose.
How about we stop focusing on what made us and focus on making the world a better, safer place for everyone to love and live in the way they feel comfortable?
I really dislike divisiveness sometimes.
super mega unpopular opinion but marriage is really low on my list of priorities tbh as long as it’s still perfectly legal to discriminate in housing and jobs due to gender identity and sexual orientation
hate crimes legislation
and investigation of rape
and basically police treatment of trans* people in general???
not to mention the shitty ways other countries treat queer people and trans* people too
i honestly really can’t bring myself to care about marriage that much until this shit gets fixed